communication

(Part of Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner) The Not-Just-Yet-Hookup: You’ve hung out with someone once or twice with friends, and wound up spending time alone both times. Now you’re hanging out alone in a private space for the first time, some enjoyable…

Well, I’ll bet you’re annoyed! But it’s not just a guy thing. Often after anyone – male, female or otherwise – reaches orgasm, they’ll be a little spaced out for a bit, and might need a breather sometimes. Sometimes, even with our bit of dizzy-spacey-blissed-out, we’ll still be up to continuing…

There isn’t a “cherry” (or an apricot, prune, or any other type of produce) inside a vagina. When people talk about “popping cherries,” it generally tends to mean a) someone is doing something for the first time, or b) someone’s hymen has popped. Thing is, the hymen, when it is present or partially…

No one should have to do anything sexually that doesn’t feel natural and right for them in order to keep a partner. And if your partnership really hinges on being ” a freak” in bed, or behaving in a way your boyfriend wants, but just isn’t really you or about you, you really, truly are better off…

It’s really normal, as a relationship goes on over time, for sex to take a bit more of a backseat. It’s also common for things to be very high-key sexually when people first start dating. Novelty – something or someone being new – tends to put a high into many people’s sex drives, and when that…

While it’s common for women – especially young women – to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it’s not “normal” in that it has to happen or there isn’t an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it’s supposed to feel very good. If you’re bleeding after sex every time, and it’s also not feeling…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

Not only can you not stop your vagina and vulva from lubricating, that is what HAPPENS to people with vaginas when we become sexually aroused. It’s supposed to, ideally, because if we’re not lubricated, vulval and vaginal sex – as well as some kinds of clitoral stimulation – doesn’t feel very good…

You know, it actually isn’t “cute” to not understand your own body. It’s pretty tragic, and for the person who doesn’t understand, it doesn’t tend to feel cute. It can even feel pretty scary, especially if and when you’re doing things – or someone else is – with that anatomy you can’t or don’t…

Is it possible to have sex with someone while they’re asleep? Sure it is. Is it likely they won’t wake up at all? Not so much. Is it likely that person would wake up and think it was awesome someone was engaging them in sex without their permission in advance? Probably not. More to the point, is it…