communication

It seems to me that you’re dismissing the fact that your girlfriend may have her own sexual desires, too. Now, whether or not you’re who she wants to explore them with, or whether or not she feels like it’s the right time in your relationship to do that is something else, but if you two like each…

We get a LOT of questions like this, every single day, and have for as long as we’ve been online. Here are just a few more recent ones: I have been with my boyfriend for the last three years, and just last May we had sex for the first time. I was a virgin, he was not. We have had sex on a few…

It’s very typical for condom use to contribute to longer lasting erections. Because they do reduce sensation somewhat – especially if you’re not putting a little lube inside, or using the thinnest condoms – and because the ring at the bottom of a condom also constricts the base of the penis, that…

It seems to me that we have four likely possibilities here when it comes to the pro-domme websites. 1) Your boyfriend is simply curious about and/or turned on by BDSM. Pro-domme sites are often free, and tend to have photos as well as information about BDSM. Some even have some bonafide, all-out…

In a lot of ways, people are like puzzle pieces, emotionally, intellectually and physically. Any two different pieces don’t always fit together, or fit together in the same way. Not all of our bodies and genitals are made alike. With penises, for instance, you not only have differences in size, you…

Before the two of you do anything sexual, I’d say it’s REALLY important that you work out the issue of him seeing sex as a way for you to prove your love. It’s not. Take a look at the bare basics from our Sex Readiness Checklist: If either of you wants to do it because you feel you must or should…

Well, it’s important to remember that bodies are not machines and they’re not exactly the same all the time. Just like many other things in our lives, our desire for sexual activity can wax and wane over time. In other words, everybody goes through periods where they may be interested in sex (of any…

Good on you for being proactive! A huge marker of sexual readiness is sussing this stuff out before anything happens, so you two are definitely on your way there. The absolute BEST way to avoid the unpleasant consequences of sexual activity is to use a condom, correctly, every time. Condoms are easy…

Anal sex, or ANY type of sex for that matter, isn’t going to be the “bee’s knees” for everybody. Even if one sexual activity feels good, that’s no guarantee that every type of sex is going to feel good either. It may just be that anal sex is not really your thing, and that’s okay. Not everybody…

Open, honest communication with your partners is key to healthy, beneficial and satisfying sexual experiences. Need some help learning how to make it happen and keep it flowing?