relationships

Well, I feel you shouldn’t fake it in the FIRST place, and would say it’s time to stop faking NOW. I know: it can be really hard sometimes to tell a partner we care a lot about that we’re dissatisfied, because we don’t want to hurt their feelings. But faking pleasure or orgasm is one of the best…

In truth, it takes a more than one sperm to fertilize an egg. Only the one does the fertilizing, but that one sperm needs a couple hundred “helper” sperm to do the job. That isn’t to say pre-ejaculate cannot cause pregnancy. From all we know practically and scientifically, on some occasions when pre…

Not an easy question, but I’ll do my best. I’m going to assume we’re not talking about infibulated women, but in the case you are, just write back and we’ll tackle that, too. One thing to understand is that one unfortunate aspect of defining virginity by the state of the hymen is that it just isn’t…

First up, good onya, J, for thinking about these things in advance, despite that fact that you’ve been so unprepared to do so by your community! Here’s the scoop on condoms for you. Effectiveness & Use: With perfect use, condoms are HIGHLY effective, around 98%. Perfect use means a few things. It…

A young person is very unlikely to need or benefit from hormone therapy to help with sexual desire. And if she’s already been on many different types of birth control pills, it’s relatively safe to say that if hormonal BC is the issue here, then her best bet is to switch to another contraceptive…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

Plenty! Without more information than that, it’s hard for me to know what’s been part of your sexual activity. For instance, if by sexually active, you just mean with partners – for any activity – then I’d suggest going back to your own drawing board, with your own two hands, and finding out about…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex—the idea that one person gives something so the other should get something of equal value—in a different way.

You know, what “sex” even IS differs for everyone. There are a world of sexual activities out there – oral sex, manual sex, intercourse, anal play, role play, frottage, the works – and how each person does them isn’t only different from person to person, but from partnership to partnership, and…

Having sex with someone else is really intimate, and we’re all vulnerable in that space, and double for both when we have strong feelings for the person we’re with. So, in order to make our own best choices – including in terms of our emotional safety – we need to understand that. Does this person…