desire

Well, if you’re just feeling strong sexual desire, not any attachment to that particular person, then masturbation is generally the best solution. Really, that’s the thing to do, always, when we don’t want intimacy with someone else, but only or solely want to just satisfy our own sexual needs and…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

There’s nothing like starting to put together all of the myriad complexities, preferences and desires of our sexuality to point out how silly it really is to suggest that human sexuality, sexual orientation or gender can be easily divided into such tiny boxes, is there? The short of it is that I…

A young person is very unlikely to need or benefit from hormone therapy to help with sexual desire. And if she’s already been on many different types of birth control pills, it’s relatively safe to say that if hormonal BC is the issue here, then her best bet is to switch to another contraceptive…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

Plenty! Without more information than that, it’s hard for me to know what’s been part of your sexual activity. For instance, if by sexually active, you just mean with partners – for any activity – then I’d suggest going back to your own drawing board, with your own two hands, and finding out about…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex—the idea that one person gives something so the other should get something of equal value—in a different way.

Having sex with someone else is really intimate, and we’re all vulnerable in that space, and double for both when we have strong feelings for the person we’re with. So, in order to make our own best choices – including in terms of our emotional safety – we need to understand that. Does this person…

Any way you do it, however you define it. In other words, what “sex” even IS varies pretty widely from person-to-person and day-to-day, and can be or include ANY number of sexual activities. Intercourse is sex, but so is oral sex, anal sex, manual sex, making out, frottage, role play, cybersex…

Hanne Blank is not a virgin. (She’s almost 37 and she’s been living with her life partner for nine years – we just thought we’d get that out of the way.) But she is a historian, a writer, and an expert on virginity, having written the first-ever history of the subject, “Virgin: The Untouched History.”