communication

You know, it’s not often going to feel good to anyone to have someone just stick a finger into the vagina. There really aren’t “tight girls” and girls who aren’t tight. The tightness of your vaginal opening and vagina is mostly to do with how sexually aroused and relaxed you are, and if what someone…

Well, I feel you shouldn’t fake it in the FIRST place, and would say it’s time to stop faking NOW. I know: it can be really hard sometimes to tell a partner we care a lot about that we’re dissatisfied, because we don’t want to hurt their feelings. But faking pleasure or orgasm is one of the best…

Not an easy question, but I’ll do my best. I’m going to assume we’re not talking about infibulated women, but in the case you are, just write back and we’ll tackle that, too. One thing to understand is that one unfortunate aspect of defining virginity by the state of the hymen is that it just isn’t…

First up, good onya, J, for thinking about these things in advance, despite that fact that you’ve been so unprepared to do so by your community! Here’s the scoop on condoms for you. Effectiveness & Use: With perfect use, condoms are HIGHLY effective, around 98%. Perfect use means a few things. It…

It’s a pretty mixed message to tell someone they’re perfect, then tell them that you’re only interested in engaging in a certain sexual activity with them if they look a certain way per your liking (shaved, unshaved, what have you). Sex with partners shouldn’t have entry requirements based on what a…

A young person is very unlikely to need or benefit from hormone therapy to help with sexual desire. And if she’s already been on many different types of birth control pills, it’s relatively safe to say that if hormonal BC is the issue here, then her best bet is to switch to another contraceptive…

I think it’s sage to listen to yourself when you say that maybe you don’t want to get into something you’re both not sure about and are not sure you’ll like. If only one partner has any interest in doing an activity, and the other either has none, or is opposed to it, it’s generally best to just…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

Plenty! Without more information than that, it’s hard for me to know what’s been part of your sexual activity. For instance, if by sexually active, you just mean with partners – for any activity – then I’d suggest going back to your own drawing board, with your own two hands, and finding out about…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex—the idea that one person gives something so the other should get something of equal value—in a different way.