communication

Learning to communicate with partners about any topic can be tricky. But working out those conversations about sex can be even more difficult. It’s really good that you want to discuss things and be open with your partner! Here’s the thing though, you can’t make someone talk about anything they…

Well, the first place I’d start is by having a good look at these four pieces here and sharing them with your spouse: Yield for Pleasure Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide First Intercourse 101 From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse Why did I link you to that first piece? In part…

You know, you’re not obliged to use language that you – or she – aren’t comfortable using, and which doesn’t make you or both of you feel good. What phone sex is – just like what other kinds of sex are – can differ a whole lot from couple to couple. And how any two people talk sex with each…

It’s fairly unusual for two people to be on the exact same page in the exact same way at the exact same time. It happens, for sure, but especially as relationships are just forming, it’s realistic to expect that at any given time, any one person may feel a bit more intense or a bit less about it…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…

It often takes a while for any new partner – especially when both partners are also new to sex in general – to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it’s normal for things to just take time. But time alone won’t tend to that…

Have you seen your health care provider about this problem yet? If not, then that’s the very first place to go. You need to get checked out and make sure that everything physically is alright with you right now. You should also make sure that you tell your health care provider specifically that you…

You know, I really wish I could get a hold of whomever started this obsession with vaginal “tightness” and have a few choice words with them. Most of the words I’d have to say would not be very nice. But since that person is not here right now, all I can do is try to clear up a few of the…