Heather Corinna

Plenty! Without more information than that, it’s hard for me to know what’s been part of your sexual activity. For instance, if by sexually active, you just mean with partners – for any activity – then I’d suggest going back to your own drawing board, with your own two hands, and finding out about…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex—the idea that one person gives something so the other should get something of equal value—in a different way.

You know, what “sex” even IS differs for everyone. There are a world of sexual activities out there – oral sex, manual sex, intercourse, anal play, role play, frottage, the works – and how each person does them isn’t only different from person to person, but from partnership to partnership, and…

Having sex with someone else is really intimate, and we’re all vulnerable in that space, and double for both when we have strong feelings for the person we’re with. So, in order to make our own best choices – including in terms of our emotional safety – we need to understand that. Does this person…

Any way you do it, however you define it. In other words, what “sex” even IS varies pretty widely from person-to-person and day-to-day, and can be or include ANY number of sexual activities. Intercourse is sex, but so is oral sex, anal sex, manual sex, making out, frottage, role play, cybersex…

It is actually quite different, presuming you mean vaginal intercourse when you say “regular” sex. That doesn’t mean your boyfriend is lying, he just may not know doesn’t know any better, since he probably hasn’t been on the receiving end of anal sex or any kind of intercourse before, or may not…

Unless your boyfriend’s penis is shaped like a tuna can, his size or yours are probably not the primary issue. For starters, when you’re using your condom (because I know anyone writing me surely isn’t a dummy and is therefore using a condom), use a generous amount of extra lubricant that is latex…

You know, “slut” is both a really subjective and often a really derogatory term. A lot of people use it out of spite, because they’re afraid of sexuality (or, more accurately, women’s or queer sexuality), and because they’re afraid of people who enjoy it, and on some level, perhaps, secretly jealous…

If you’re a guy, even though you’re not the one who can become pregnant, you still get choices, and you still should participate in birth control use and responsibility just as much as a female partner. Have a look at how you can do your part.

The same way anyone else does. Which is to say, any vast number of different ways. Sex isn’t just vaginal intercourse. Sex is any number of combinations of things people of all stripes do together to seek mutual sexual pleasure, and what those things or that combination are varies for everyone, even…