Heather Corinna

This is one of those questions where the only “right” answer is that it’s not wrong if it isn’t wrong for you. But I’ll give you more than that to work with. If it’s wrong, it’s a wrong thing that the vast majority of the population does at one time or another, most starting so young that we don’t…

If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…

Sometimes, when we perceive pain before it happens, we feel pain because (primarily) of that perception. It’s called a perceived pain event when that happens. Suffice it to say, that happens a LOT to a lot of women with first intercourse because of all the stories we hear about how terribly painful…

First things first: with ANY new partner – as in, someone we have not been with for six months or more, and practicing all aspects of safer sex with – we really, truly should be using latex barriers (condoms, in this case) with fellatio. I know, I do, that at 14, it often seems really unlikely…

I’d divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let’s start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are…

It’s not naive to be without information because no one gave it to you. As far as the ovulation cycle, I sure can! Start by having a look at this: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation. The way to know if you’re ovulating – or, more accurately, to be able to make your best guess – is to start…

We hear a lot – for sound reasons – about how intercourse by itself isn’t very satisfying for a majority of cis women. What we hear less about is that it’s also not always satisfying for men. But just because we hear less about it doesn’t mean it’s not an issue for plenty of men. No one sexual…

Before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m so sorry you had to have this experience. Sadly, very few women who have had even the smallest measure of sexual experience will go through life without at least one person responding like this, but it’s particularly painful when the person saying…

Joe, I’m going to be pretty straight with you, here. The “circumstances” aren’t determining your behaviour. You are both, every time you don’t use condoms properly and consistently, making an ACTIVE CHOICE to take the risks that are causing you this stress. You have every possible ability to make…

We get a lot of questions like this, so let’s try and clear up the matter once and for all. With a majority of people with vulvas, if you were nosing around in there when they hadn’t VERY recently given birth, you still wouldn’t likely be able to tell that they have had infants. As reproductive…