Heather Corinna

Your boyfriend needs to understand and accept that it’s very unlikely he never pre-ejaculates if he does fully ejaculate, too. In other words, if, at his age, he’s reached the stage of puberty where he can ejaculate, then he also does pre-ejaculate. Pre-ejaculate is how the penis “prepares” itself…

Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue or about women: it’s almost always a men’s issue and really about men. Find out what men need to know about rape and rapists, what you can do to be sure you have consent with sex, other ways to help with rape prevention, and why your help is so important.

Let’s start with the biggest question: is it wrong to have sex with someone you’re not in a capital-R or romantic relationship? You know, all this wrong and right stuff is arbitrary and very personal. I’m sure there are some things for me in my sex and general life that are right as rain for me, but…

I tend to think the best way of saying I love you is…well, saying “I love you.” But if you’re asking if sex can express love? Sure it can. It doesn’t always, but it absolutely always has that potential. People being mutually invested in each other’s comfort and pleasure, each other’s sexual growth…

You know, I always feel for heterosexual or bisexual folks when they clearly have paid attention to this stuff, done the reading or just talked to women, put it all together and have that “Whoah!” moment about this issue. With so many people reared to think that male-female vaginal intercourse is…

You know, it actually isn’t “cute” to not understand your own body. It’s pretty tragic, and for the person who doesn’t understand, it doesn’t tend to feel cute. It can even feel pretty scary, especially if and when you’re doing things – or someone else is – with that anatomy you can’t or don’t…

You will need to tell new partners about a sexually transmitted infection you have or have had, particularly one like human papillomavirus (HPV) where condoms reduce the risks of transmission, but not as well as they do for other kinds of infections. Putting someone knowingly at risk of an infection…

Really, all I needed to do was to get to your second paragraph, and then read your last few sentences to know that a) this guy isn’t good news and b) you really don’t want to be in this relationship, which I’d say is a very good thing. Can you imagine your almost-thirty-year-old self making a deal…

No, it is not. Sounds to me like your girlfriend has misunderstood how fertility cycles work. While cycles vary between people who menstruate – which is part of why the “calendar method” isn’t a good one – a vast majority of those people will be most fertile mid-cycle, between around day ten and…

If you say nothing, it’s unlikely he’ll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don’t change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age…