Heather Corinna

The best person to ask that question of is…. (drumroll please) … your girlfriend! She’s the one who knows the answer to this question. When you’re doing something sexual with someone, and they’re not reacting in any way or don’t seem to be fully along for the ride, the first thing to do is to…

How familiar are you with the changes to your vulva or the rest of your body when you get sexually aroused? I ask this, because I’m willing to bet that there have been times, for you, when you’re with a partner you’re attracted to, and who you want to be with, but find that your clitoris is not as…

People tend to forget that young men often may not even be at the stage in their sexual development where erections happen often or easily or where they can yet ejaculate. Some guys are just starting puberty at 14 or 15. Your boyfriend simply may not be at this stage in his development yet. But…

Well, not all men do freeze up when asked (and not all men watch porn, either). For that matter, some women also watch pornographic movies, and they don’t all become mute when you ask them about it, either. As someone who has written on these issues a lot over the last ten years, and asks others…

One of the things that has a great influence in both how I enact sexuality education and how I conceptualized my approach from the get-go is my background with teaching in the Montessori Method. Overall, the primary way Montessori works is this: as educators, we observe our students, and based on…

If you had a partner before him for oral, vaginal or anal sex, that could be who you got it from and your current partner managed not to contract it from you (now or yet), or contracted it so recently that he isn’t testing positive yet. Or, your current partner’s test wasn’t accurate, or he said he…

Can you see your double-standard here? You don’t reach orgasm during sex, but say that you enjoy and want it all the same. Even knowing that – assuming it’s true, and not just something you’re saying because you think you’re supposed to – you’re presuming that because he isn’t reaching orgasm, he…

What’s a “boyfriend” or what’s a “girlfriend?” It all depends on what you and yours decide it’s going to mean and what works best for you.

There’s a lot to talk about here. Let’s start by addressing and dealing with your risks. It sounds to me like you’re both so unaware of your own anatomy, and were so unfamiliar with what any given kind of sex might feel like that there’s no way either of us can say if you only had anal intercourse…

Your issues of sexual satisfaction and your issues of considering opening up your relationship when it comes to dating others strike me as two different issues. We’re rarely going to meet a new partner who just lucks into knowing exactly what to do for sex to be satisfying for us. In fact, it’s much…