Heather Corinna

Lisa, I can’t implore you enough not to take this personally and not to think about this as you being inadequate. You’re not inadequate: you two just wanted different things. Our needs and wants and someone else’s needs and wants are just not always going to mesh, even when one or both of us really…

The short answer is… when she’s okay with or wants a pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection. Here’s the longer answer, since it’s a bit more complicated than that. To get you up-to-speed with the basic facts, when it comes to pregnancy, of every 100 women who have vaginal intercourse…

(CMH’s question continued) He likes petite girls, as do most guys. I am tall (for a woman) and big. I weigh over 200 pounds, though I carry it well. I do not have a pretty face, though I would not call it ugly. It is also not particularly interesting. He told me that even though I have a good…

Fordyce’s spots – if that’s what we’re talking about here – are nothing to be concerned with. If they are on the lower shaft of the penis – rather than around the glans – and you have had them for a while and have not been sexually active with a partner, that’s certainly a possible issue here…

I’m going to assume that when you say “sex” you’re talking about vaginal intercourse. If your boyfriend is going to have partners with vaginas who experience pleasure with sex, he’s going to have to adjust his way of thinking. Most people with vaginas – around 70% – are NOT going to reach orgasm…

See that part where you say you don’t know what he wants you to do? When you two had that conversation – or better still the next day or now, when he’s sober, and you can even ask him if he meant what he said in the first place – your next question would have been exactly that. In other words,…

While out of town this weekend, between two plane trips and a couple late evenings up reading, I started and polished off Elliott Currie’s The Road to Whatever: Middle-Class Culture and the Crisis of Adolescence in very short order.

(Steve’s question continued) I feel weird having to rely to masturbation while having her. We’ve messed around a lot, meaning making-out, I’ve done almost everything to her breasts, and rubbed her vagina through her clothes with my hand and penis(dry humping), she has played with my penis through my…

(Elizabeth’s question continued) I tried to show him porn and he literally left the room. I know he isn’t gay because whatever hatred he has for the female body is only a fraction of how turned off he is by the male body. He says that he sees sexual things as a chore and would rather masturbate…

You just answered your own question. You don’t need me at all! :) If you don’t think you can handle a sex life right now, and you don’t feel like sex outside of a certain context – which you are not currently in or don’t have the opportunity to be in – fits with what you believe or is going to be…